Sex Toy History And How It Can Help Your Relationship

A long time ago, Sex Toys where considered something to be ashamed of, you would never tell your friend or even your partner but slowly over time they have been accepted into society and are becoming more and more popular. With the Wide variety of adult toys and the fast pace world of technology changing every day, there seems to be always a new toy on the horizon.

Of course it can be quite difficult when you are with a partner and looking to bring sex toys into the relationship, some people can be quite touchy about the subject, some men consider it an insult like they are no longer needed. The truth is that sex toys bring couples closer together and help relationships last longer, some are designed so both people are involved in the action and not just one person is receiving all the fun.

But it can be quite daunting on the huge range available and what is suitable for you and your partner can take longer to figure out then you think! but buying toys that will be used with you and your partner is something that requires research and experimenting, you may find many products that don’t suit you but this is normal as everyone is different. It is well documented that most vibrating adult toys tend to work well together, things like rabbit vibrators, vibrating bullets and a new product that has just been released is the we-vibe which is designed to work with both people during sex. More and more couples toys are being created everyday because there is such a demand for toys.

More money is being spent on adult sex toys every day then most other industries and yet it is still considered a problem to talk about, it is still not socially acceptable in conversation in broad general environments such as at the dinner table or out while having drinks with friends, but you will find even your closest friends have adult toys that have never told you about, you could say keeping it quiet about your toys makes the experience better but if everyone where to talk openly about the subject there would be little trial and error and only the best toys would be available making it easier to understand “whats hot and whats not”

Originally sex toys where developed for a single user and where never thought of that they where to be used together, the dildo was one of the first adult toys to be created then from that it slowly became an all women’s industry making all different kinds of toys for women and hardly anything for men then toys like the fleshlight was created which is a fake mouth/vagina/anus designed for sex for men, it has become a revolution with hundreds of thousands being sold all over the world. Although there may be many different toys available some are not designed just for pleasure, the cock ring is made so the male can last longer in order to please the female, so there are other reasons to purchase an adult toy.

If you are in a relationship or single it is OK to own a sex toy, it is something that will help with self esteem and relaxation thus helping with every day life. If you haven’t got your toy yet, grab one now!

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How To Introduce Sex Toys In The Bedroom

Now that Fifty Shades of Grey is so popular, all of the media is talking about sex and sex toys. Are you curious about trying them but are too embarrassed? Are you unsure whether they are right for you and your relationship?

The following are some common misconceptions about adult toys:

Most people don’t use sex toys

Wrong! Many respectable people use adult toys, including people most would consider perfectly normal. Using an adult toy doesn’t make you “odd” or doesn’t say anything negative about your relationship. It just helps you have fun more fun in the bedroom! You don’t have to share with your friends, your boss or your mother that you use toys unless anyone unless you want to.

Sex toys are just for masturbation.

While adult toys are commonly used for masturbation, many couples enjoy using toys together, whether they are female or male or heterosexual or homosexual. Usually these couples are comfortable trying new things together, are open-minded, and trusting.

Your partner will feel inadequate if you start using a sex toy.

Are you nervous that if you bring an adult toy into the bedroom, it will hurt your partner’s feelings? An adult toy can give you an orgasm, but it can’t tell you how much they love you or rub your back. An object is not a substitute for a real person. If your lover has this fear, be sensitive and stroke his or her ego a little bit. As with most relationship issues, good communication is key.

Using sex toys can be physically dangerous.


In fact, adult toys can have very positive effects on your sexual health.

For example, many doctors and therapists recommend adult toys to women who have trouble reaching orgasm; if you suffer from painful sex, vibrators can stimulate blood flow; all women can benefit from kegel exercisers or kegel balls to tone the pelvic floor muscles; prostate massagers reduce the risk of prostate cancer, erectile dysfunction and frequent nighttime urination. Lastly, orgasms help you live longer, block pain and, some say, look younger. Who wouldn’t want that?

If you use sex toys too much, you won’t have an orgasm with your partner.

If your partner is afraid you’ll replace him or her with your favorite toy, promise him or her that you’ll always keep things different in the bedroom: try different positions, new toys, light bondage and fantasy play.

If your relationship is healthy, there’s no reason why you should need a sex toy.

You are so lucky to have a healthy relationship. However, who wouldn’t want to make their relationship even stronger and closer by sharing a new experience? If your lover is insistent about not wanting to use an adult toy to spice up your sex life, assure him or her that you don’t need an adult toy either, you’d just like to try one.

You or your partner is afraid of feeling pleasure

Pleasure is a birthright. Everyone deserves it and should have it. Own your sexuality and do what works for you. After all, orgasms make you healthier and happier.

Buying sex toys can be really embarrassing especially because they look gross and scary.

You are right. Now, thanks to the Internet, you can shop in the comfort of your own home without judgement. Most adult toys make you feel uncomfortable because they are usually phallic or cheesey or are so loud that you think your children or neighbor might hear what you are up to. Luxury sex toys are just the opposite. You might not even realize that they are high quality adult toys because they look like art. They are now so discreet and quiet that no one will know what you are up to.

These arguments might make sense and work for most people but might not work for you. If that’s the case, here are 3 more reasons to try out sex toys:

Pleasure = Sex Toys

Who is not a fan of orgasms? You might be too tired or too busy to have sex, but there’s no denying that orgasms feel good. Adult toys can help you have more orgasms. What’s wrong with that?

Sex Toys are Fun.

Whether you have been with your lover for a few months or many years, things might be a little stale and you want to try something new. That’s OK – you are not alone! Adult toys can add excitement to the bedroom and keep things from getting mundane. Using an adult toy together can bring you closer; sharing new experiences together can be very intimate.

Sex Toys Make Sex Better.

Did you know that about 30% of women actually have an orgasm during sex? Most women need clitoral stimulation to achieve an orgasm. Meanwhile, many men have trouble sustaining their erections as long as they would like, whether it be because of age, medication or stress. That’s what adults toys are for!

If you are now ready to start using adult toys, here are a few suggestions to get started:

Start slow by starting out with something small. Start with a small toy and show your lover that the toy is all about adding more pleasure and excitement to the bedroom. For example, if you want to try a vibrator, start with something that’s small and discreet, like a finger vibrator or vibrating egg. If you want to try light bondage, try a blindfold or holding your lover’s hands above their head during foreplay.

When you are ready, work your way up to something bigger and bolder.

Above all else, remember that communication is the key to any healthy relationship. If you can’t share your feelings or desires, something is not right. Intimacy and fun are the main goal. It is entirely up to you to decide whether that means with or without sex toys, but experimentation never hurt anyone!

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Why Every Relationship Needs Sex Toys

Adult sex toys is a topic that is being discussed more and more these days. Thanks to the book Fifty Shades of Grey, more people are buying toys and admitting to using them. Did you know that about 45% of women ages 18-60 use vibrators? Did you also know that about 78% of those women use a vibrator with a partner?

Although the numbers don’t like, are you still one of those people who don’t understand why people use them? Do you feel that if you have an excellent sex life, why would your relationship need sex toys?

Nothing is perfect and your sex life can always improve and be even better. Adult toys help you spice up your relationship and have a more fun and interesting sex life. They also are the key to helping you and your partner express yourselves sexually.

More Sex

Everyone could use more sex and more enjoyable sex, right? We already know that sex helps you live longer, makes your heart and immune system healthier, reduces pain and stress, and improves sleep. Adult toys help couples have more sex in more adventurous and fun ways. If your sexual attitude is more playful, then your sexual relationship is more satisfying. Does that make sense?

Women’s Orgasms

About 75% of women can not orgasm through penetrative sex versus 90% of men who do. Using a toy during sex, such as a couples vibrator/couples sex toy or a vibrating penis ring, is one way to help the situation.

Faking Orgasms

If you ask men how many women they have been with you have faked an orgasm, most men will say none. This truth is that about 50% of women have faked an orgasm at least once.

If you incorporate sex toys into your sexual relationship, your chances of reaching an orgasm increase dramatically.

Let’s consider time. We are all very busy and not many of us can have marathon sex sessions every time we have sex. If she is lucky enough to orgasm through penetration, it could take up to 20 minutes. If she were to use a luxury vibrator, it could take a few minutes.

Premature Ejaculation

Many men experience premature ejaculation. The Mayo Clinic suggests that one in three men or about 30% of men experience PE. A helpful way to fight premature ejaculation is with sex toys for men and sex accessories. For example, penis rings help restrict the blood flow from leaving the penis. Male desensitizers are designed to have him feel less sensation and delay ejaculation to prolong sex.

Everyone Orgasms

Unfortunately, many men forget about their partner’s needs. The key to the best sex is that is should include an orgasm for each partner. This should be the goal every time you have sex. Sex toys can help you reach your goal and cross the finish line… together.

It’s OK to use sex toys with a partner and using toys should not hurt your partner’s feelings. Sex toys are objects and not a real substitute for a real person.

Make sure to communicate with your partner how important each person’s orgasm is. The “hows” should not matter as much as they “whys.”

She Hates Her Body

Many women are embarrassed about their body, which can sometimes lead to intimacy issues. Using sex toys during mutual masturbation can reduce the anxiety of nakedness and help create more intimacy.

If you are ready to begin using sex toys, please make sure to read my other article: How to Introduce Sex Toys in the bedroom.

Have fun and remember that experimentation never hurt anyone!

My Secret Luxury is the provider of luxury adult toys and high quality romance tools. We offer a curated collection of sex toys for men, women and couples that adhere to the highest standards of design, style and technology. My Secret Luxury provides a place for discreet exploration and discovery through carefully crafted Secret Kits and gives unparalleled customer service through the Secret Concierge, who is available to turn fantasies into reality.

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The Amazing Range Of Sex Toys

The variety of sex toys is surprising. Sex toys vary from purely male or purely female sex toys to toys that can be used by both sexes. There are also some sex toys that can also be classified as sex aids or marital aids.

The Purpose Of Sex Toys

Some sex toys aid the man’s erection, stimulate the female genitals to become more sensitive or provide a different feel to ‘normal’ sex. Other sex toys provide an ‘environment’ for variations in sex, for example so called orgy bed sheets. Sometimes they are used to help a person who has difficulty with unaided sex to achieve sexual satisfaction. However most sex toys provide a new way to directly stimulate the male or female genitals to achieve sexual satisfaction.

Using sex toys can provide new experiences and variation in the sexual experience. It can also provide a fantasy element for enhancing or revitalising a relationship.

The usual expectation is that a sex toy provides direct stimulation of the genitals in foreplay and/or during sexual intercourse or as a means to obtain orgasm through only the stimulation provided by the sex toy.

Types of Sex Toys

Vibrating Sex Toys

Probably the most well known sex toys are ‘vibrators’ which, as the name suggests, provide stimulation of the genitals using vibration. They are mainly used to stimulate the clitoris, but may also be used to stimulate any other part of the female body or that of a man’s.

The simplest of these are pencil or wand shaped (though normally thicker than a pencil). They often have an internal battery (or two) which powers a small electric motor. Sometimes the battery pack and controller are external and connected to the vibrator by a wire. This motor is fitted with a small, out of balance, weight attached to the shaft. As this weight rotates it throws the motor and vibrator into a small circular movement which causes the vibration you feel.

With a vibrator that has a controller, as the power is increased the speed of the motor increases and with it both the rate and strength of vibration. Both the strength and rate of vibration effects how stimulating you find the sex toy. The best effect may not be as strong and as fast as possible. The optimum settings may well change as your degree of excitement builds. To get the best results it is worth buying a vibrator which is controllable.

Different vibrators will have different characteristics and you may well find you prefer one combination much more than another and your preference may even vary depending on which part of your body you are stimulating.

More recently electronic vibrator controllers have appeared which provide not only the static control of power/speed but also allow you to select patterns of power pulses and surges. These can be very effective.

There are also other vibrating sex toys such as butterfly stimulators and vibrating penis rings.

Other Powered Sex Toys

There are some sex toys that use other ways to provide mechanical stimulation. These usually depend on a motor that makes the sex toy continually change its shape which provides a sort of rotational movement or makes it move back and forth. The back and forth movements are sometimes powered by an air pump rather than a motor. The movements have been used to create, for example, mechanical licking tongues, vibrators that ‘penetrate’ the vagina and mouth simulators to give a man a ‘blow job’.

On a bigger scale and much more expensive, there are ‘sex machines’ that incorporate thrusting and vibrating dildos.

Combination Sex Toys

So far we have covered vibrating, moving and thrusting sex toys. As you may have guessed these are all offered in a bewildering array of combinations.

A common combination in many ‘Rabbit Style’ vibrators is clitoral stimulation using vibrations and vaginal stimulation using movement and sometimes a thrusting motion as well.

Many sex toys add varying textures to their surfaces; a dildo or vibrator may have ridges or soft spikes or a rippled shape.

Sensation Change Sex Toys

Some sex toys rather than provide vibrating or moving stimulation, change the feel of sex.

For instance there are a variety of sleeves to put over the penis to provide different sensations for both partners while engaged in penetrative sex.

There are rings that squeeze the base of the penis and/or tighten the scrotum that assist the man’s erection and also changes his sensations. There are penis extenders and thickeners which may give a man’s partner greater sensations during penetration.

There are a wide variety of lubricants that can significantly change the feel of sex.

There are PVC and Polyurethane bed sheets that are water and oil proof that can be used for slippery or messy sex.

Why Use A Sex Toy?

A good question is: why do people use a sex toy? Surely fingers, tongues, penises, clitorises and vaginas etc all provide great sexual stimulation and enjoyment.

Well, apart from therapeutic uses (eg erection assistance), sex toys can drive the imagination (being taken by a machine), provide variety (new ways to do old things), vary the stimulating effects in otherwise normal sex (penis sleeves) and some can provide experiences not possible with ‘normal body parts’ (particularly vibrating sex toys and electro-stimulation).

Where To Start

If you have not tried a sex toy before and don’t yet have an idea of what you might like, try one of the simpler vibrators first. Most probably you will enjoy the experience and then start to wonder what other delights can be found with more sophisticated vibrators and other sex toys …

If you then find you do enjoy sex toys try out a few others and find what suits you. Above all, have fun trying them out!

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What Do You Want From an Online Adult Store?

Couples in a long-term relationship as well as a new relationship may consider how they can enhance their love life by visiting an Online Adult Shop to look at sex toys, sexy lingerie, adult games or sexy night-wear. More and more couples are visiting these stores which, is proven by the growth in the sex toy industry and the ever-growing type of toys available. Not only are the sales of sex toys growing but so is the online availability of lingerie, sexy night-wear ad adult games. With this growth and the more liberal approach to fun in the bedroom what do you want when you visit an online adult store?


One of the most important factors for customers of online adult shops is discretion. The site itself will display some images that you won’t want your children or mother to see when you are visiting, so you will need to practice your own discretion. More importantly if you purchase a product, whatever it is from one of these sites, you don’t want the package to arrive displaying the name of the site or the actual outer packaging of the product. The majority of the sites do of course use packaging which doesn’t show what the contents are, and if they didn’t you would be unlikely to return for more products.


If you want customers to return you need to entice them with a range of products that will give them a reason to return in the future. The growth of the market sector means that with more and more customers buying then choice and new products are essential for you as a couple and a visitor to an online adult store to have a reason to come back for more.

New Products

To keep you coming back for more and looking at the range of products and what will be your next purchase then the online adult shop has to offer new products on a regular basis, and tell you about it.

All businesses need to introduce new products, and in this market if new products added every month it keeps the customers interested with a new sex toy or set of sexy lingerie to fulfil all your desires.

These new products not only keep the existing customers coming back for more, they also mean that new visitors see a site which is not standing still and always has something new.

Price and Special Offers

The convenience of visiting an online adult store which demonstrates discretion, has a large choice of products with new products being listed on regular basis is great, but if the prices are too expensive then the visitors are unlikely to purchase. It is very easy to compare the prices of the products available from these online stores so the site owners must keep customers interested by giving special offers for new customers, returning customers and for special times such as valentines, Easter, Christmas, New Year or any other festival which presents a reason to offer customers a reason to buy.

Regular News and Updates

When a customer purchases from an online adult store the account that they create when checking out means that the site owner can send regular updates via email. This is a great tool for the site owner to get repeat business but also a superb way to receive news of new products and special offers as a customer.

As a customer if you are satisfied with your purchase and the overall experience why wouldn’t you want to return?

Easy Navigation

If the online adult store is offering you discretion, a large choice, new products, competitive prices and telling you as a customer about new products and special offers this can all fall down if the site is not easy to navigate.

Like any site when we first visit it will take us some time to get used to how the navigation around the site works. The first impression is important and the site has to have some familiarity in how to navigate as well as have great images and descriptions of the products.

Get all of this right and the online adult store will be build up a customer base that returns again and again. And the customer will enjoy a great sex life with his or her partner.

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